What about NO feedback?

I love to hear supportive comments, and am challenged to accept criticism, but the hardest thing can sometimes be getting no feedback at all.  If my priest, schola members, or director of music don’t say much, what does that mean?

Here’s how I deal with it, and would love to hear your suggestions as well.

First, I stay open and inquisitive.  I try to pick up whatever signals are there, while not trying to misinterpret things.

Second, I ask for feedback.  Sometimes people don’t know if I would appreciate it, and are reluctant to say something that might be perceived as criticism.

Third, sometimes I test the waters.  What if I tried something new – what would you think?  Would you like A better than B?

Fourth, I reconnect with the reason why I’m doing this.  A schola isn’t about being popular, after all, it’s to help people experience deeper worship.  They may not be able to express or even recognize that right now, but I hold the hope that this is helping some people.

Finally, I don’t take myself too seriously.  We need energy, and I need energy.  Try stuff, learn, grow, change, and have some fun.  Yes, we can have fun in church.

What do you do when you’re not getting enough feedback?