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		<title>Rachmaninoff Vespers!</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Mar 2010 03:34:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>This evening, my wife and I had a chance to attend a concert of the Larimer Chorale, our local and extremely talented choral group based in Fort Collins.  The program was Rachmaninoff&#8217;s Vespers (All-Night Vigil), Opus 37.</p>
<p>Sung entirely in Russian, it was an amazing experience!  And more unexpected &#8211; a capella!</p>
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<p>I&#8217;ve experienced a lot of [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/Rachmaninoff.jpg"><img class="alignnone size-full wp-image-637" title="Rachmaninoff" src="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/03/Rachmaninoff.jpg" alt="" width="200" height="307" align="right" /></a>This evening, my wife and I had a chance to attend a concert of the <a href="http://www.fortnet.org/lc/" target="_blank">Larimer Chorale</a>, our local and extremely talented choral group based in Fort Collins.  The program was Rachmaninoff&#8217;s Vespers (All-Night Vigil), Opus 37.</p>
<p>Sung entirely in Russian, it was an amazing experience!  And more unexpected &#8211; a capella!</p>
<p><span id="more-636"></span></p>
<p>I&#8217;ve experienced a lot of classical music over my lifetime, thanks to a very talented mother and aunt, and a number of years in the school orchestra.  I appreciate this kind of talent and dedication to a faithful rendition.</p>
<p>But in this case, what really made the difference was the pre-concert explanation by the director, Michael Krueger.  For over half an hour, he patiently explained the context of all-night vigils in the Russian Orthodox Church, the timeframe of the composition, and how the choir was able to sing Russian so beautifully.</p>
<p>This reinforced for me the importance of letting people know the larger story behind the music we sing.  It&#8217;s not just about singing &#8220;Glory to God in the highest&#8221; because we&#8217;ve done it our entire lives.  This is the song of the angels, defining their relationship to our creator.</p>
<p>What could be more beautiful?  What could be more important?</p>
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		<title>A long strange path!</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Mar 2010 03:29:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>My wife and I had a chance to go to a local Amy Grant concert Friday night.  This was a benefit for Lutheran Family Services, and included a limo ride down to Denver, and a meet-and-greet with Amy after the show.</p>
<p>It was a truly fantastic evening, in so many ways.</p>
<p>Upon reflection, I realized that my [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Amy.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-632" title="Amy" src="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Amy.jpg" alt="" width="150" height="132" /></a>My wife and I had a chance to go to a local Amy Grant concert Friday night.  This was a benefit for Lutheran Family Services, and included a limo ride down to Denver, and a meet-and-greet with Amy after the show.</p>
<p>It was a truly fantastic evening, in so many ways.</p>
<p><span id="more-631"></span>Upon reflection, I realized that my first contact with Amy, probably about 28 years ago, awakened a spirituality within me that ultimately led me to join the Catholic Church and be heavily involved with Sacred Music today.</p>
<p>We had a chance to chat with her for a few seconds after the concert, and when I mentioned this, she signed my program with something I&#8217;ll treasure forever:</p>
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		<title>Remember why we do this!</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 22 Feb 2010 20:08:46 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>One of my other roles at church is to help out with our parish&#8217;s RCIA program.  Yesterday, despite a somewhat tenuous weather situation, we all traipsed down to the Cathedral in Denver for one of the Rite of Election services with the Archbishop.  As always, he was a wonderful Shepherd for his flock, helping our [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>One of my other roles at church is to help out with our parish&#8217;s <a title="Explanation: What is RCIA" href="http://rcia.dierschow.com/descr/whatisrcia.htm" target="_blank">RCIA</a> program.  Yesterday, despite a somewhat tenuous weather situation, we all traipsed down to the Cathedral in Denver for one of the Rite of Election services with the Archbishop.  As always, he was a wonderful Shepherd for his flock, helping our RCIA Candidates and Catechumens to realize the magnitude of their life-altering decisions.</p>
<p>What does this have to do with Sacred Music?</p>
<p><span id="more-628"></span>Well, it&#8217;s really all part of the same tapestry of religious life.  We spend lots of energy on instruments, techniques, musicality, and so on.  Fine.</p>
<p>But in the end, the point is to help bring souls to God.  This is the most important thing I can be doing with my life.</p>
<p>I have to remember that the rest of it all really is just ways to achieve that.  So let&#8217;s not confuse the fifteen interpretations of the ictus with the Truly Important Work.  Which is whether we are able to help people find God.</p>
<p>Stepping back and taking this perspective helps me, at least.  It also helps me to remember that I&#8217;m not really in the driver&#8217;s seat.  This is about service for God.</p>
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		<title>Challenges</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 08 Feb 2010 03:53:49 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>This is a time of turmoil in my spiritual life.  I won&#8217;t go into more detail, but it&#8217;s something that is causing me to lose a bit of sleep.  And what little hair I have left.</p>
<p>What to do?</p>
<p>Well, I&#8217;m back to a lot of deeper prayer, including the Rosary.  I still have faith that God [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Prayer.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-625" title="Prayer" src="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/02/Prayer.jpg" alt="" width="100" height="150" /></a>This is a time of turmoil in my spiritual life.  I won&#8217;t go into more detail, but it&#8217;s something that is causing me to lose a bit of sleep.  And what little hair I have left.</p>
<p>What to do?</p>
<p><span id="more-624"></span>Well, I&#8217;m back to a lot of deeper prayer, including the Rosary.  I still have faith that God is supporting me through all this.  I don&#8217;t know why, but &#8211; I pray &#8211; there&#8217;s something good which will result.</p>
<p>I thank each of you for the support that you&#8217;ve given me in the past, and will in the future.  Pray for me, for my family, for our church.  We need it.</p>
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		<title>We can be powerful without being perfect</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 01 Feb 2010 03:14:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>My colleague Tony made this observation in a discussion last week:</p>
<p>&#8220;We can be powerful without being perfect.&#8221;</p>
<p>It really struck me as an important concept, one that I need to constantly remember on my journey of life.</p>
<p>Like everyone, I think, I get hung up on the idea of achieving perfection.  Nothing wrong with that &#8211; it&#8217;s [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My colleague Tony made this observation in a discussion last week:</p>
<blockquote><p>&#8220;We can be powerful without being perfect.&#8221;</p></blockquote>
<p>It really struck me as an important concept, one that I need to constantly remember on my journey of life.</p>
<p><span id="more-621"></span>Like everyone, I think, I get hung up on the idea of achieving perfection.  Nothing wrong with that &#8211; it&#8217;s what we&#8217;re here for.  But somehow the concept of being imperfect has been linked with powerless.</p>
<p>And when I think of it, the logic is obviously flawed.  The people who have had the most impact on my life have been far from perfect &#8211; and in fact, their imperfections are often a reason why they&#8217;ve affected me so much.</p>
<p>And the people who are most powerful in the world, in society, in any group you can think of &#8211; they&#8217;re nowhere near perfect either.  They have certain attributes that I may want to model, but perfect?  No.</p>
<p>So, when you get depressed on how your flaws seem to be holding you back:</p>
<blockquote><p>You don&#8217;t have to be perfect to be powerful.</p></blockquote>
<p>Thanks for that, Tony!</p>
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		<title>Living life as it is</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 25 Jan 2010 16:19:17 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>&#8220;Life is not about avoiding broken eggs.  Life is about presence (broken eggs and all)&#8221; &#8211; Terry Hershey</p>
<p>There&#8217;s so many problems, so many things to be fixed.  We live in fear of what is and what&#8217;s to come.  And meanwhile, we spend our lives constantly focusing on the future.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the deal:  Your presence is in [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<blockquote><p><a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/Egg.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-618" title="Egg" src="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/Egg.jpg" alt="" width="100" height="136" /></a>&#8220;Life is not about avoiding broken eggs.  Life is about presence (broken eggs and all)&#8221; &#8211; <a href="http://terryhershey.com" target="_blank">Terry Hershey</a></p></blockquote>
<p>There&#8217;s so many problems, so many things to be fixed.  We live in fear of what is and what&#8217;s to come.  And meanwhile, we spend our lives constantly focusing on the future.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the deal:  Your presence is in the present.  And if you can&#8217;t enjoy and appreciate what God has given you in the present, you will reside in constant misery.</p>
<p><span id="more-617"></span>The challenge is to appreciate the present, imperfections and all.  Sure, the broken eggs may be a mess, but God&#8217;s love is most important when we&#8217;re in disarray.  That&#8217;s also the time when we can recognize our fragility and reliance on others.</p>
<p>Here&#8217;s the long picture:  You&#8217;re born.  You do stuff.  You die.  Everybody goes through this cycle and it never changes.</p>
<p>Depressing, huh?  When you look at the rest of your life &#8211; you &#8220;do stuff&#8221; and then you die &#8211; it seems almost pointless.  Clearly the meaning of life isn&#8217;t there.</p>
<p>Where is it, then?  In relationships.  In the impact we have on others.  In how we are able to help each other on our intertwined journeys.</p>
<p>And our journeys are messy.  I happen to believe that this is exactly God&#8217;s design, because it&#8217;s only through the messy parts that we experience why love is necessary.  Although it seems paradoxical, glory is revealed through hardship.  Why would you have any need to be lifted up if you hadn&#8217;t fallen?</p>
<p>Through our relationships, each of us is put here as a gift for each other &#8211; not to avoid difficulty, but to experience difficulty and help each other through it.  That&#8217;s the glorious work of God.</p>
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		<title>Trust is the word, again</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 18 Jan 2010 19:43:44 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Back in November we got people from all the parishes in Fort Collins together to sing sacred music for Mass.  That was so wonderful, we&#8217;re going to do it again!  We&#8217;re looking at the end of February, at my home parish.</p>
<p>One of the challenges is to make the offer to our pastor, and to the [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HolySpirit.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-615" title="HolySpirit" src="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/HolySpirit.jpg" alt="" width="175" height="161" /></a>Back in November we got people from all the parishes in Fort Collins together to <a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/sacredmusic/trusting-the-holy-spirit" target="_blank">sing sacred music for Mass</a>.  That was so wonderful, we&#8217;re going to do it again!  We&#8217;re looking at the end of February, at <a href="http://seas-parish.org" target="_blank">my home parish</a>.</p>
<p><span id="more-612"></span>One of the challenges is to make the offer to our pastor, and to the person who normally leads music for that Mass, in such a way that they&#8217;re likely to be excited about this opportunity.  I&#8217;ll be focusing on how this can help make the Mass a special liturgical experience, build relationships with the other parishes, and give an opportunity to promote truly sacred music.</p>
<p>When we got together to make plans, it was interesting to see how hard it was for the three of us to make decisions.  Each of us has radically different expertise, and nobody is the clear decision maker.  We&#8217;re each trying to bring our gifts, contribute ideas and observations, and support each other in achieving our various goals.  Goals which aren&#8217;t always clearly articulated, of course.</p>
<p>But it works!  We focused on what would be the best fit for the second Sunday of Lent, for the skill of the singers, for the pastor and the congregation, and for the limited amount of practice time that we&#8217;ll have.</p>
<p>Again, it comes down to trusting in the Holy Spirit.</p>
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		<title>Celebrating small steps</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 11 Jan 2010 20:53:39 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve observed a number of conversations recently where people are coming up against what appears to be a brick wall of tasks.  There&#8217;s so much work to be done, an infinite number of problems to be fixed, a huge number of people to convince&#8230;.</p>
<p>Daunting is a relatively weak word for what it feels like.</p>
<p>Let&#8217;s recognize [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/BrickWall.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-609" title="BrickWall" src="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/BrickWall.jpg" alt="" width="132" height="136" /></a>I&#8217;ve observed a number of conversations recently where people are coming up against what appears to be a brick wall of tasks.  There&#8217;s so much work to be done, an infinite number of problems to be fixed, a huge number of people to convince&#8230;.</p>
<p><strong>Daunting </strong>is a relatively weak word for what it feels like.</p>
<p><span id="more-608"></span>Let&#8217;s recognize that this is just a part of the human condition.  Nobody is meant to have it easy, even for those who appear to have it all together.  Where do we come up with the energy to fight the important battle?</p>
<p>One key trick I have is to celebrate positive progress, no matter how small.  That will support my ability to maintain the optimism that anything is possible, only given enough time and focus.  I have <a href="http://www.possibilitiespartnership.com/business-leadership/more-resources" target="_blank">more resources than I recognize</a>, there are others who have a similar passion to mine, and I&#8217;m making little teeny bits of progress every week, every month, every year.</p>
<p>Am I fooling myself?  Yeah, in a way.  Sometimes I <em>don&#8217;t</em> make any progress, even have to take steps back.  But that&#8217;s life, and that&#8217;s other people&#8217;s actions.  Despite that, it&#8217;s important for me to continue to maintain my mindset of possibility and optimism.  So instead of moving into despair, my challenge is to learn as much as possible from the challenges and then to move on.</p>
<p>If you&#8217;ve been following <a href="http://www.dierschow.com" target="_blank">my career blog</a>, you know that I lost my job in Spring 2009.  It was a deep emotional blow, of course.  But my faith and attitude was core to my ability to work through the disruption.  I&#8217;m not totally through the challenges, as <a href="http://www.PossibilitiesPartnership.com" target="_blank">my company</a> isn&#8217;t yet showing a profit, but I&#8217;m working hard to celebrate the small steps and keep optimistic.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s a daily challenge, but worth the effort.</p>
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		<title>Honey or vinegar</title>
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		<pubDate>Mon, 04 Jan 2010 03:49:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>A colleague today raised an interesting question which caused me to start thinking pretty deeply.  Here&#8217;s the problem:  How do we get someone to fix something that they&#8217;re satisfied with, but we&#8217;re not?  If they have control of the situation, and they&#8217;re satisfied with it, it&#8217;ll take a lot of concerted effort to get them [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p><a href="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/Conflict.jpg"><img class="alignright size-full wp-image-605" title="Conflict" src="http://sacredmusiccoach.com/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2010/01/Conflict.jpg" alt="" width="243" height="143" /></a>A colleague today raised an interesting question which caused me to start thinking pretty deeply.  Here&#8217;s the problem:  How do we get someone to fix something that they&#8217;re satisfied with, but we&#8217;re not?  If they have control of the situation, and they&#8217;re satisfied with it, it&#8217;ll take a <strong>lot</strong> of concerted effort to get them to change.</p>
<p>This can be especially true in a church context, because there are significant power relationships at work, and deep emotions.  Both of these are even more exaggerated for church musicians.</p>
<p><span id="more-604"></span>So let&#8217;s start off with that well-worn phrase, &#8220;it&#8217;s easier to catch flies with honey than with vinegar.&#8221;  It has a core of truth, which is that people are more likely to cooperate when you&#8217;re creating a cooperative relationship rather than confronting them.</p>
<p>But it&#8217;s more than that  If someone is satisfied with their situation, then it&#8217;s difficult to give them enough &#8220;sweetness&#8221; to want to change.  So here&#8217;s where a deeper truth enters in:</p>
<p><strong>People want help, not barriers.</strong></p>
<p>Let&#8217;s say that you&#8217;re dissatisfied with the music in your church, but aren&#8217;t in a direct position to change it.  That&#8217;s a situation that many readers can relate to.</p>
<p>What does the pastor, or the director of music, need help with?</p>
<ul>
<li>Picking music that people don&#8217;t complain about</li>
<li>Fitting music to the liturgy (but there are many different views about what this means!)</li>
<li>Finding talented and spiritual musicians to play and sing</li>
<li>Complying with guidance of church hierarchy, liturgical committees, and so on</li>
<li>Doing all of this, regularly, week after week, year after year, in addition to all the other tasks</li>
</ul>
<p>These are not insignificant issues!  So the leaders need help, and here&#8217;s the trick.  <strong>Help them to address the needs they know they have.</strong></p>
<p>If you try to convince them they have NEW needs, you&#8217;re just adding more work &#8211; that&#8217;s not helping.  What you want to do is to reduce their works by addressing their needs.</p>
<p>So first, you must find out <strong>what they think their needs are</strong>.  You might have your own opinions, but they&#8217;re probably a bit different than the way they understand the situation.  The fact that you&#8217;re dissatisfied probably means you don&#8217;t fully understand their needs and the way they think.  Almost certainly there&#8217;s a disconnect of some sort.  So ask.  Listen.  And learn without judging.</p>
<p>Then, only then, you can start to figure out how you can help them address those needs.  And if you can truly help them, without creating new problems, they&#8217;re much more likely to accept your help.</p>
<p>Sure, it&#8217;s work.  Yes, it can be painful.  It doesn&#8217;t always work.</p>
<p>Humans are like that.</p>
<p>But many times it does work, and can lead to glorious, creative solutions.</p>
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		<title>It&#8217;s simple</title>
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		<dc:creator>Carl</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[<p>Jesus has been reaching out to every one of us, every day, with a tremendously simple message.  It&#8217;s not rocket science, folks, or it wouldn&#8217;t be accessible to all.</p>
<p>It&#8217;s our human habits which love to create all this complexity, all the rules, all the wonderfully rich traditions.  But let&#8217;s remember that the message of our [...]]]></description>
			<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Jesus has been reaching out to every one of us, every day, with a tremendously simple message.  It&#8217;s not rocket science, folks, or it wouldn&#8217;t be accessible to all.</p>
<p><span id="more-601"></span>It&#8217;s our human habits which love to create all this complexity, all the rules, all the wonderfully rich traditions.  But let&#8217;s remember that the message of our life&#8217;s purpose and ultimate salvation is straightforward:</p>
<ul>
<li>Love God with all your heart, mind, and soul, and</li>
<li>Love your neighbor as yourself.</li>
</ul>
<p>When all our human endeavors help us to do these two things, we&#8217;re on the right track.  When they obscure our view of the divine, well, that&#8217;s not helping.</p>
<p>I wish you all a wonderful Christmas season, since most of it remains, and a blessed rejuvenation of your soul.</p>
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